"Self love is the source of all our other loves."
- Pierre Corneille
I think most of us spent the beginning of our lives learning that love comes from other people. From when we’re babies and being cared for by our parents or care takers, certain needs were met, or not.. And from that, we created a system to evaluate the amount of love we deserved or didn’t deserve.
Growing up, we applied that system to our lives.
So we kept believing that we need our needs met by others as proof that we are loved.
Then, maybe we start to get an inkling that there’s something that feels off about this. “Why do I need this person or that person to do these certain things so that I can feel good/loved?” We come to realize that we have no control over other’s actions. And, boy, can that be a painful stream of lessons (that we'll always be learning).
Then we start to get curious about the concept of self love. A journey that can be incredibly difficult to face.
It’s not a shallow affirmation of “I love myself.” It’s a deep exploration of getting to know the darkest parts of our self, the most appalling and ugly parts of our self. It’s not a pretty, dainty process. It often comes with a good dose of tears. It’s terrifying and will bring you to your knees over and over again if it’s being done with a true openness. At least, that’s been my experience.
But as we continue to walk, we begin to see that we have all the love we could ever need, right here inside.
Then we slowly start to operate from that love and we start to see that we don’t NEED love from others to feel worthy of love.
When we desire love from others, is it really love we are wanting? Or is it a yearning to get our needs met in ways we had no control over when we were younger and more innocent and still learning?
This self love trumps all love because it comes from Source, the infinite well. And through it, we heal that part of ourselves that has, for so long, felt unworthy of it.
And the beautiful thing is that once we start to fall deeply into this pure, true love, we see our outer existence transform. We learn that if we give effortlessly with this love, we open up to receiving the same love through all relations in our life.. Our family, friends, lovers, pets, neighbors, strangers. We start to operate from a place of “How can I share this love?” We begin to believe that it can never be taken from us or run dry.
A beautiful, incredibly brave, never ending journey. I feel so inspired and grateful to be witness to so many people who are walking the path to self love with vulnerability and courage.
Coming home <3
You are blessed and you are a blessing.